Boundaries…❤️
So, I used to watch Private Practice back in the day right, but I had never seen it from the first season. Well low and behold last year it was on HULU and one night I was like I think I am going to binge on something, I just didn't know what. Then BOOM I saw it.
Now as I was watching the show all I could focus on were BOUNDARIES or should I say… the lack thereof.
I am all for living in the moment and not being afraid to take chances, but REALLY?
As big as Southern California is, yall had to keep sleeping with all the same people for real?
Two Things I Talk A Lot About….
Making good decisions
Setting healthy boundaries
I promise you the characters on this show were doing neither. As a matter of fact, it only got worse with each new episode. Which reminded me why I stopped watching it in the first place.
After watching that nonsense. LOL. Boundaries wins today.
Boundaries: something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent.
Even when you want to live a limitless life… you need some limits.
Boundaries/Limits means I love me. I love me enough to know:
What I will and will not accept.
What is good/healthy for me.
What is not good/healthy for me.
I have not always had healthy boundaries so I must thank God for his grace and mercy (Thank you!!!!!).
This is why I am always about a self-assessment. It's my way of evaluating what is working and what is not! I self-assess in EVERY area of my life because if something is off, I definitely want to catch it before it becomes a derailed train like the above photo.
Boundaries are applicable in every area of your life:
Relationships (family, friendships & romantic)
Work (environment, co-workers & workload)
Why do I need boundaries? uhhh… self-preservation. (Seriously)
Now I do not possess the miraculous list of boundaries that are cookie cutter for everyone. You have to be the one to set your boundaries because you are the one who has to live your life and remain within the boundaries you've set. But make some, some real ones, some honest ones, especially in romantic relationships. Once you have set your boundaries DO NOT blur the line for any of the following reasons:
Fear of losing the person. (rejection).
Attempting to make them happy at your own expense (emotionally or financially).
Becoming a different person (that you don't even like) to please someone else.
Out of guilt - letting them make you feel bad about your boundaries.
I have no boundaries and…..
If you do not have clear healthy boundaries you will not have healthy relationships. Boundaries go hand and hand with the identity you form. Do boundaries have to be rigid and unflexible? No, of course not, boundaries sometimes change as we grow and as life evolves, just make sure if you are changing a boundary, it's for the right reasons and it's your idea and not someone else's.
A good rule of thumb.. set your boundaries based on God’s word!
P.S. I hope your January has been awesome!
